For a long time I thought, “Why would a mother want to go to work and leave her kids?” Now I know. Not only are there circumstances when a mom needs to work to provide for her family, but there are also times when a mom needs to work for her own sanity.
I blog for my sanity. I am not one of those moms who cook, clean, play, read, and snuggle with their kids all day long. I would go nuts. I am not a stay-at-home kinda mom. I am a get-out-and-explore-the-world kinda mom. Where I go, my kids go. While I am home, watching them grow, learn, and play, I blog. Not dote on my babies 24 / 7.
Being a mother is tiring, both mentally and physically. I mean, don’t get wrong, I love it. I don’t know of anything more rewarding then being a parent, but it has its challenges. Cranky kids, sick kids, needy kids, fighting kids, and poopy kids. Having kids is love, joy, blood, sweat, and tears, all wrapped into one big package.
Sometimes I want to be left alone. I want to focus on myself and my non-mom goals. I want my space bubble to be left intact and not be popped by one of my offspring. Sometimes “going to work” sounds good.[bctt tweet=”I am NOT a stay-at-home kinda mom. I am a get-out-and-explore-the-world kinda mom.”]
These last few years my husband has become a stay-at-home dad. This wasn’t his choice but due to health issues that is just the way it is. Brad loves his kids but there are many days he will tell you, “I miss work. It was easier.” Well, this isn’t completely true because his work situation was contributing to seizures, but I get his point.
Being a parent is stressful. If the kids are having a good day, one of the parents is not. If the parents are having a good day, one of the kids is not. If everyone is having a good day, something crazy happens and it all goes to pot. If everyone is having a good day, and everyone goes to bed happy, the planets must be in alignment! Whoot, whoot!
Sometimes “going to work” sounds good to a tired mom or dad. It’s completely normal and it’s completely understandable. Sometimes I wish I could blog at an office and not in my home. Working at home is not always everything it is cracked up to be. Not when you have four children at your side, spilling coffee on your laptop.
If I worked out of the house though, I would have to find a suitable sitter, pay a hefty price for proper child care, and miss my kid’s milestones. I am sure I would wish I was a stay-at-home mom. Maybe finding contentment is the key. Being satisfied with your blessings. Maintaining a positive viewpoint. Choosing to smile instead of frown. Or at least trying to smile, even when you really just want to scream and run away.
If you a parent and “going to work” sounds good, that is okay. I get you. It took me a while to come around, but I’m here. By the way, can I go to work with you? Just a few times a month, I swear ;-)
Signing off in Mexico, crazy momma of four, Tina